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Top Three Tips For Better Time Management

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When I observe the actions of the people around me, one thought doesn't fail to cross my mind - why are we in such a rush to get through our day? And why are we in such a rush to live?

Why do we jam-pack our day with back-to-back errands, if it adds stress to our lives and doesn't make us happy inside? Why are some of us programmed to sporadically squeeze in as many tasks in our day as humanly possible - to be productive? Can you really call yourself productive when your stress levels go off the charts?

In my opinion, there's a fine line between maximizing productivity and creating an unorganized chaos for yourself. And I'm here to differentiate the two.


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Maybe I just enjoy chillin' like a villian too much and appreciate living in the moment, but one pet peeve that really grinds my gears (Peter Griffin reference anyone? LOL) is when others enforce their unhealthy fast-paced living habits on me. Don't get me wrong - I'm all for productivity, but only when one is capable of crossing off their to-do's off in real time and not under an unreasonably timed window.

What doesn't make sense to me is when people massively cram back-to-back errands in an inconvenient manner IF they have additional time to space these errands out throughout their day. And worse - if they complain or stress over the fact that they don't have enough time to complete their daily tasks when they obviously do?

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TIP #1:
If you find extra time in your day-to-day schedule, space out your errands accordingly so that you avoid burning yourself out and causing extra stress on your mind and body.


Hypothetically, let's say I have an entire Saturday free to take care of my work and complete my errands. I've written one hypothetical individual's Saturday schedule in two types of formats - an inconvenient and stressful schedule versus a convenient and laidback schedule. At the end of the day, this individual gets the same tasks done, but just prioritizes his/her time better and feels less stressed. Let's compare the two and analyze why the convenient schedule is a healthier day-to-day lifestyle.

*Note: 30 minute increments refer to driving or transitioning to the next task*

HYPOTHETICAL SATURDAY: (INCONVENIENT & STRESSFUL SCHEDULE)
Sleep 11:00PM - 8:00AM
Breakfast 8:30 - 9:00AM
Gym 9:30AM - 11:00AM
Shower 11:30AM - 12:00PM
Lunch 12:00PM - 12:30PM
Grocery Shopping 1:00PM - 2:30PM
Work/Errands 2:30PM - 6:30PM
Dinner 7:00PM - 7:30PM
LEISURE TIME (TV, magazine read, etc.): 7:30PM - 10:30PM

RESULT OF AN INCONVENIENT SCHEDULE:
- 30 minute meal times (no time to actually enjoy your food)
- Always rushing to the next location/task (no breathing time)
- Stressed out for a majority day trying to meet the next task on time
- Burnt out from not taking any breaks or pauses throughout the day

Meanwhile...

HYPOTHETICAL SATURDAY: (CONVENIENT)
Sleep 11:00PM - 8:00AM
Breakfast 8:30AM - 9:30AM
Gym 10:00AM - 11:30AM
Shower: 12:00PM - 12:30PM
Lunch 12:30PM - 1:30PM
Grocery Shopping 2:00PM - 3:30PM
Work/Errands 4:00PM - 6:00PM
Dinner 6:30PM - 7:30PM
Work/Errands Pt. 2 7:30PM - 9:30 PM
LEISURE TIME (TV, magazine read, etc.) 9:30 PM - 10:30 PM

RESULT OF A CONVENIENT SCHEDULE:
- 1 hour meal times (Can actually live in the moment & enjoy the flavors of his/her meal)
- No panic attacks or unnecessary stress from rushing to the next task/location
- Added dinner as a break between work/errands so he/she avoids burning out throughout the day
- Less leisure time available
- Overall, he/she will encounter less stress and feel much happier when a productive day runs smoothly

At the end of the day, I feel happiest when I cross off my daily to-do list at my own pace. I personally don't mind if I take longer to do each task, just as long as my deadlines are met and the quality of my work is not compromised. Feeling stressed over a routine schedule that you've set up for yourself or rushing through each task does not sound like a productive lifestyle in my opinion. And remember, you have the power to CHANGE how you live your life, so why not do shape your day around a schedule that works best for you? By not rushing through tasks or speeding to the next location, I personally feel in more control of my day, which leads to an improved mood and work ethic. I personally find that constant movement and work makes life feel less enjoyable. Besides, it's good to have a balance between busy and relaxation. 

Obviously, this tip doesn't apply to every single individual, as some people juggle multiple jobs or are parents. However, I've included this list for the average person BECAUSE there are so many of us out there who rush through our daily lives, thinking we don't have enough time when in reality, it's all about proper time management and how we effectively utilize every minute of our day.


TIP #2:
Add breaks in between LONG tasks or after completing multiple tasks.


Breaks act as breathing time so that I avoid burnout and that I can complete my tasks as efficiently and stress-free as possible. Also, breaks do not count as checking your phone for Instagram notifications. A break includes taking a quick nap, meditation, going on a short neighborhood walk, or anything that puts your mind at ease. Also, I've learned that a change in scenery really helps those creative juices move - hence why I always go to coffee shops to work, heh.


TIP #3:
Use a planner (whether on your mobile device or a physical notebook) to jot down your daily list of to-do's and errands. An organized schedule leads to focused goals and a healthy mindset.


Planners have been my lifesaver since I started my blogging career three years ago. By juggling an endless amount of deadlines (guys, blogging is like constantly turning in schoolwork, but in overdrive mode. Not kidding.) and scheduling photoshoots 1-3 times per week, there's no way this goldfish memory of mine can remember every project that's due and every location and time that I have to meet somebody in my industry.

If you want to save a bit of money, I would recommend using your free "Calendar" and "Notes" mobile apps. However, if you're more of an old school planner typa gal like me, I would recommend investing in a planner that gets the job done. For those of you know already know me well, Passion Planner is my absolute favorite planner that I've been using for years because of its goal-chasing mission! Please check out their website here and see their planners for yourself - Passion Planner has literally changed my life for the better.

Stay tuned for a list of my favorite planners - coming to a blog post on Missmisschelle later this week ;) 

I hope that these three tips at least helped one of you guys out, whether it means reassessing your current schedule or learning how to apply better time management to your day! To be honest, I've struggled with poor time management in the beginning when I was getting situated with the blogging lifestyle, but this career has definitely shown me how to balance my work and social life for the better. With that, I am forever appreciative that I can do what I love for a living all the while inspiring you guys to chase your dreams! Also, I want to thank one of my best friends, Wendy, for helping me get my life back on track with her coaching sessions - please read about my coaching experience here and how integrating a weekly coaching call into my schedule has improved my financial, social, fitness, and work life for the better.

Please let me know in the comments section below which tip resonated with you most, or if there's a tip you'd like to add to my list :) Until then, I'll talk to y'all soon! 

Much Love,

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Coaching: How It's Changed My Life For The Better

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Have you ever felt like you weren't happy with multiple aspects of your life?

Well...I certainly have.

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The Backstory:

It's been two years since I started this blogging journey and don't get me wrong - I feel as passionate towards blogging as I have when I first started. In fact, there are SO many more topics that I want to address on the blog and the journey doesn't end here! But, why did I feel so lost and empty, even while chasing my dream career? Shouldn't I be fueled by motivation and ambition on the daily by being able to do what I love for a living? You'd think so.

But on top of being a mid-20's entrepreneur, I'm just your average gal with her standard set of problems that other people may struggle with as well. Financial burdens, shaky friendships, a lack of motivation to work out or diet - all of these factors were eating away at me simultaneously and I felt that I was slowly losing myself. Losing the will to live life to the fullest, and losing the willpower to piece myself back together. When you struggle with one obstacle, it can be tough, but at least recoverable. But when you realize that you have SO much more baggage than you realize all at once, it starts to pile on...and well, weighs you down. And from the bottom, it's pretty damn hard to climb back to the top, especially when nobody can understand what you are truly feeling or going through. When you experience life at the "lowest" point, the stinging words of "just get over it" or "what's wrong with you" won't exactly help you recover.

To the outside person, you'd see me having the time of my life laughing with other bloggers at a media event, clinking glasses during brunch, taking photos for my friends, and much more. Why did I look so happy on the outside, when I was nothing close to feeling that way on the inside? I guess I never really faced or realized the seriousness of my problems...until I was alone. Thus, I convinced myself to stay out and socialize for as long as possible in hopes that my problems would evaporate into thin air. Better think twice, Michelle. When you run away from your problems, they stay at home waiting for you, like concerned parents waiting for their child to come home.

Anywho, that's the long and somewhat depressing backstory of how I've been feeling in life lately. But, I'm not here to complain about life, because that's what Twitter statuses are for (LOL). On Missmisschelle, I aim to connect with my audience by sharing personal stories and how I overcome certain obstacles in my life with a positive attitude and determined mindset. So in this blog post, I wanted to share with you guys how I started to recover from such a mentally troubling state. The solution? Coaching.

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THE SOLUTION:

I realized that the pinnacle of my problems stemmed from the fact that I blamed external factors for why my life was going downhill. I claimed to friends that I had no control over certain things that happened and that inevitability over certain actions/situations was why my life sucked. But no, the blame game does not get you anywhere, nor does it help you become a better person. By blaming others or anything but myself, I wasn't moving anywhere in life because I refused to change. I played the blame game, I lacked a course of action, and I had no motivation to get out of where I currently was - sounds like a hopeless "game over" to me.

But that where's coaching came into play. One of my best friends, Wendy, knew what I was going through and listened to my problems intently, but she couldn't quite put her finger on why I was struggling with so many life issues at once. Eventually, she started to pursue coaching as a a potential career option and asked me if I could "play" the role of one of her clients. Turns out, we both played our roles pretty well.

After our first 45-minute webcam session, Wendy successfully pinpointed all of the problems I wasn't happy with in my life and drove me to figure out solutions for the each of them. Remember that my solution in the past was to come up with an excuse? Well, typical Michelle kept coming up with her lame ol' excuses, one after the other, but Wendy refused to let this happen. As a coach should be, Wendy urged Michelle to dig deeper as to why she was creating so many excuses to cover her tracks. So goodbye excuses, you're no longer needed.

By the end of our first session, Wendy continued to ask me questions to learn how I got stuck in this position and how to get myself out of this shithole I dug for myself. Eventually, we came up with a roll-out plan for me to apply to my life. Since then, I'll admit that it hasn't been 100% smooth sailing and I do find myself coming up with excuses for why I didn't finish a certain task, but we both noticed a huge improvement in my motivation to change and improve my entire lifestyle within a week. I was now taking action on each aspect of my life that I wanted to change for the better, seeking to improve and better myself as a person. 

So here's a tip from me to you - if you are afraid to ask for help or think seeking help from others is for the weak, it is not. There's no shame in asking for help; in fact, it is a bold move that not everybody can do for themselves. Asking for help and admitting fault is one of the most courageous things you can do as a person, as a lot of people in life refuse to admit that they are wrong or that something is wrong in their life. I'm one of the few people in life who will willingly admit that I am wrong in certain situations, and I encourage more people to do act like this. To admit fault when deserved, to seek change when necessary, to desire a healthier lifestyle. If everybody were to admit they were right or perfect in this day and age, just imagine how many problems that would arise in relationships, friendships, and in life. Instead of finding excuses to dodge blame or claiming to be perfect, let's work on ourselves by analyzing what's wrong and what we can do better.

Now that it's been my third webcam session with Wendy and things have tremendously improved in my life, it's time for me to help others in need. If you feel like you're internally struggling with something and you don't feel comfortable sharing your problems with friends or family members, then seeking a counselor, therapist, or a life coach may be the route from you.

Be sure to book your first complimentary consultation with my best friend and aspiring life coach, Wendy Hsiao, and let's get you on the track to a better life! This is not a sponsored post or an obligatory post to a close friend, but just a post that I've been meaning to write for a while. Since Wendy's coaching tactics have positively impacted my life in such a short amount of time, I just knew that I had to share my backstory and recovery progress with all of you guys. Stay tuned for a blog post on the METHOD I use to keep my life organized and on track again - coming soon to Missmisschelle! ;)

Book your first appointment with Wendy Hsiao on www.wendyhcoaching.com.

Much Love,

The Truth About Working In The Social Media Industry

The Truth About Working In The Social Media Industry

You watch her Instastories seeing her have the time of her life at a social gathering, clinking her colorful cocktail glass against her friend’s hibiscus margarita.

You come across his most recent post, raving about the wonderful time he’s currently having as he explores the streets of Paris.

You tell yourself that working in the creative field must be so goddamn perfect and that everybody seems to be in love with what they do.

But as a passionate lifestyle blogger who’s been chasing her dream career for two years and counting, I’m here to tell you that life behind Instagram’s little squares isn’t exactly represented through one's perfect aesthetic feed. Today, I wanted to share a heart-to-heart talk with my followers addressing the side of social media that nobody sees. This includes the financial struggles of being a full-time blogger, the overwhelming amount of stress from juggling multiple collaborations, the never-ending deadline to create content 24/7, and more.

Being Fearless

Being Fearless

You’ve probably noticed by now that I don’t publish as frequently as I used to on Missmisschelle. Although I had spent many hours per day writing draft after draft, these posts never ended up being released. So, there are at least five lengthy pieces that nobody will ever get the chance to read by Missmisschelle. This is due to a recent developed blogger's fear of mine - the fear that my posts weren't good or interesting enough to read. Trying to run away from both disapproval and negativity, I ended up pulling myself away from the publishing any new blog content.

Life Lessons I've Learned in 2016

Life Lessons I've Learned in 2016

In just a few hours, the end of this year will become the beginning of a new one. Even when New Year's Eve is supposed to be a day of relaxing, eating, and partying, I'm here on my desktop typing away because I wanted to take the time to reflect upon everything that has happened within the last 366 days (leap year). 2016 has been quite an emotional roller coaster. After all, there was just so much I have learned and accomplished, whilst facing many challenges along the way. Before the year comes to a close, I wanted to sum up a few honest thoughts on what I've learned as a 24-year old woman.